Let the Kids Be Kids

The funny thing - or maybe the best thing - about having a blog for this long (damn near 3 years) is that I can look back and see patterns.  Patterns of my kids' behavior and patterns of my own reactions.

I have come back to this post a dozen or so times in the last two weeks.  "Just Be Mom or Dad" was its original title, but really it is about letting kids be kids.

So, because I am feeling a little hyper-focused on what the kids need to be doing (before Kindergarten next year, before therapy stops for the summer, before whatever...), I have needed this post as a reminder to settle down.  And when I feel that way, it is usually the case that one of you all is feeling the same way.  Hence, the repost. 

And the wish for all of you to have a good week - one that has less to do with running to therapy, aruging over homework, or squabbling over whether or not today is a 'hair wash day' - and more to do with enjoying each other. 

And now the post....

"Let The Kids Be Kids"


Just because your child is challenging, doesn’t mean that you aren’t still his parent. Spend the weekend with your case-manager, social-worker, education-consultant, medical-scheduler, worry-wart, and future-predictor hats on a shelf, and just be your child’s parent for the day. Reconnecting with the parts of our kids that are the most fun, special, and awe-inspiring often gets left off the never-ending to do list in the hustle of the day to day management of all of their needs – choose this weekend to honor who they really are and let them be kids!
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