Is the Art of Parenting Lost?
I have regular conversations with people who are seeking my advice on parenting, something I have grown accustomed to over the last 14 years (hard to believe I was teaching parenting before I had children of my own, but alas, I was…). That doesn't surprise me anymore, but what does continue to surprise me is that the definition of parenting (not to mention the execution of it) seriously seems to be lost. The misconception I see the most is that parenting is just a mixture of supervision and discipline – perhaps sprinkled with a healthy dose of ‘eat your vegetables’ and ‘take your medicine’. But that’s not parenting. Parenting is not supervision alone. Parenting is not discipline alone. Parenting is not simply giving rules and enforcing them. Parenting is what happens in between rules and discipline . Let me explain. Most people parent the way their parents parented them (for better or worse) which is usually a Behavioral based model of parenting. It works, loosely, like this:...